There is no loss that compares to that of losing a loved one.
Although death is apart of the process of life, one can never truly grow numb to the emotions felt each time the moment comes to say “goodbye” or “see you later”.
When we lose those we love or admire, it leaves a residue of ambiguous emotions that causes us to go through different stages called grief.
The final stage in the grief process is Acceptance.
It can take awhile to reach this relevant and necessary stage. And the time frame in between intervals depends upon the person because every person is different.
But even after truly accepting that the person we have been connected to for nearly all our lives, if not our entire life, is no longer available to experience and enjoy life with us it can be difficult to move forward.
You feel guilty.
You feel a bit selfish.
And these feelings are natural. I know that I have had to deal with them.
It can seem so unfair that the beloved person is no longer able to enjoy the things that you are still able to enjoy and you can feel guilty and even selfish for doing so.
But think about the person that you lost. They also loved you. They also admired and cared about your happiness and well-being.
If they were watching your every move, would they rather see you depressed, sad and just existing everyday?
Would they want to see you excited, happy and enjoying everyday living?
There is “a time to be born and a time to die…a time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance” (Ecclesiastes 3:2,4 NIV).
Regardless how many years each person has to experience life, it is still a short window. And it’s okay to seize every moment of that time.
If you are currently finding it difficult moving on with your life due to a special person no longer being here, I encourage you to take a step forward by doing something you enjoy doing. Your loved one will always remain dear to you and irreplaceable.
But it doesn’t mean that you can’t enjoy doing things that you use to enjoy doing with them. Yes, dancing and laughing without them will be bitter-sweet. It will cause you to remember the memories, which will cause you to remember how much you enjoyed life.
Share the memories. Create new ones. Keep on living without guilt. And when you see them again, you will have a lot to talk about!