Have you ever had the urge to wish that you just awaken from what was at worst a nightmare only in dream form or at best a foolish prank? This aching desire was the outcome of a bad decision that you made.
The decision left you agonizing over many questions:
Why did I do that?
What was I thinking?
What is wrong with me?
Why did I make such a foolish mistake?
Before you are too hard on yourself, the answer is simply called Life.
Each day that God grants us we are bound to make decisions or choices that we will regret. And when we are in the immediate aftermath of that decision, it can really mess with our minds.
Think about the last decision that you regretted. You might be currently processing a choice that you recently made. How many times have you replayed the steps that led up to the decision? How many times have you rehearsed over and over again what you could have said, what you could have done or what choice you should have considered?
It is a difficult place to be in, right?
“Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all thy ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight” (Proverbs 3:5, NIV).
The book of Proverbs is full of wisdom. In fact, the theme of the book is wisdom and knowledge. It gives many warnings about the importance of adhering to wisdom and knowledge because those that despise them are considered fools (1:7).
Now, before you start to feel those butterflies in your stomach again, remember that making “foolish decisions” is a part of life. The important thing is that you learn from each choice you make. Making a ‘foolish’ decision does not make you a fool unless you do not seek the wisdom of God. Making a bad decision makes you human. But you should be growing from every decision.
So, how do you grow beyond the regret?
One of the answers is within the highlighted verse. We often utilize this verse while we are in the process of making a decision, as we should. But we must remember to trust God after we have made a decision.
Yes, your choice could have resulted in an outcome that seems to be having a domino effect in your life right now. But even so, you have to trust God to pick up the pieces and place them back in order.
You can not “lean on your own understanding” about how the decision is going to continue to affect your future.
“Acknowledge God” in the process. Confess your distress to Him. Cast all your cares on Him. You do not have to be overwhelmed by faulty thinking of that you have messed up so badly that it has cost you significant things.
Trust God to align your chaos, those paths that have gotten out of order.
Right now, starting today, you are going to choose to move forward and start preparing for the next opportunity that God has for you. You can not undo your past, but you can work in your present, and be present in your future choices.
GROW beyond THIS!