When Your Heart’s Not in the Game

The biggest day in American football or any American sport for that matter, is now over.

Did your team win or lose?

Were you a faithful watcher up until the very end? I wasn’t.

After the historic and epic half time show, I pretty much tuned out to the movie channels. Now, I appreciate the art of the game, but college football is the only sport of its kind that I will get hyped for and watch until the very end.

Honestly, I had never heard of Cam Newton until this game. Being from Rebel country, who doesn’t know a Manning? But I have to admit that the brief interviews and stories I saw about Cam made me more intrigued to watch the game and cheer him on.

Given the fact that I had never watched him play before, I noticed something within the first 30 minutes of the game: it appeared that his heart wasn’t solely in the game. Based upon my social media feed, others thought the same thing too.

Despite the Broncos victory, it didn’t really seem as though Peyton’s heart was in it either. I’m sure he is thankful for a great defensive line.

So why would two of the top quarterbacks playing in the most important game in their field not have heart for the game?

Only they can individually answer that question.

But what about you?

What exciting opportunity do you have going on in your life right now? It may not be as major as a Super Bowl game, but it sure might feel like it to you.

Are you changing careers?
Have you recently started a new job or been promoted?
Are you about to graduate from a specific academic program?
What about getting married or starting a new relationship?

They can be major or minor life events that give you an opportunity to win or excel in life. The question is, “How do you feel about it?”

Great opportunities can be scary. They can make even the most confident and qualified person lose edge. When anxiety kicks in, you have to get to the root of the cause. When you are placed in a position where you are expected to win, then quite understandably the pressure is on.

Even in such case, you have to remember the reason why you are “in the game” in the first place. You can’t allow the negative attitudes and expectations of others to cripple who you are. You have to be free to be you. Being you is what has gotten you to this new opportunity. Do not apologize for being here.

So what else could be causing your heart not to be thrilled about this new opportunity?


What insecurities, past fears or hang-ups are keeping you from not celebrating your recent success? If you have been promoted, do you think you don’t deserve it or will fail in your new position? If you are engaged, are there unresolved issues from your past relationships or do you have doubts about your fiancé?

A heart at peace gives life to the body, but envy rots the bones. – (Proverbs 14:30)

No matter how big or life changing an opportunity is, if you are not at peace, you will not be able to fully engage in it. Therefore, you will not be able to enjoy the opportunity or its benefits.

You have to get to the root of your fear or the barrier that is holding you back. Is this the first time you have felt this way about good news or do these feelings always come up when you are dealing with this particular area in your life?

Sometimes the best way to move forward is like Nike says, “just do it”. There is always an excuse not to do something when we are searching for one. Perhaps you need to shift your mindset by making a positive declaration. Right out “I can” statements and speak them out loud and post on your wall or desk.

Have you considered that you just don’t want to take an opportunity that everyone else would jump at in a heart beat?

One of the worse things in life is to be living someone else’s dream that is a nightmare for you. Trust me, I know. Are you entering this new relationship or marriage because for the wrong reasons?

You have to follow your heart regarding life decisions. When your heart is not in the game, you won’t enjoy it and you have to deal with the outcome. My outcome in life has not always been the results I wanted, but when it was something I was passionate about and gave my all, I was able to live with the results. There is always another game, you just have to change the plays of the next one.

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