Beginning of another work week.
It took nearly every ounce of energy you had to force yourself to get dress, drive to work and walk into your office building. Before you could get a cup of motivational coffee, sit at your desk and log into your computer you are asked about a report or to handle the latest customer complaint.
Unanswered calls. Flashing red light.
Bold emails. Appointment notifications.
It’s not even 8:10 and you have already concluded how this day will be and end:
The same as last Monday. The same as this past Friday.
Constant demands. Endless Requests.
This is why your mind had to convince your body to get out of bed.
Your company, along with millions of others, is in peak season. This means the supply and demand is at its highest. Fundraising goals are crucial.
All of these factors mean more work and more stress on you.
Not to mention the social aspect.
Some of those sticky notes and unread emails are from coworkers reminding you about your department’s holiday party and the corporate functions. They have delegated another assignment for you to add to your “To Do List”. They seem to be in the holiday cheer and getting a rush out of the fast paced work mode. You are not enjoying either.
You are feeling…
You are so over anxious that faulty thinking has already established your days.
You have stressors that have become unhealthy for you.
You are fearful of not being able to perform your duties and disappointing others.
Why is stress so unmanageable for you now? November and December aren’t the only months that include high peak seasons for your company. However, they do include two of the most intimate holidays that are meant to be shared with loved ones.
So why are you so stressed at work right now?
You are grieving…
Over a deceased loved one. Over a divorce. Over a disconnected relationship.
You are not able to function properly at work because you are dealing with internal struggles.
You are afraid to confide in a coworker. Instead of owning your feelings you feel safer to have them think you are being antisocial. When in actuality, you are really trying very hard to keep from having a melt down in front of them. It hurts you to plan for a social gathering at work when it is so painful for you to even think about the holidays. You might actually enjoy your job, but you know that the holiday break is quickly approaching and you will be forced to face the reality of your situation.
So how do you deal with this repeated cycle?
As I mentioned in my blog post, Punching a Hole in Your Holiday, you have to OWN YOUR FEELINGS.
Yes, work can be stressful for the average person. You have to get to the root of your stressors. There is good stress and bad stress. This is why it seems like your coworkers are handling the peak season well. Some people are motivated by intense situations. Whereas, it appears they are functioning greatly at work they might be malfunctioning in other areas.
TIP 1 – Be honest with yourself
Distracting yourself with the blame game is not helping you face the truth. Who or whatever you are grieving, acknowledge that so you can allow yourself to grieve in a healthy way.
TIP 2– Be honest with others
Whether it is coworkers, church or club members, own your feelings with them. You don’t have to get into details about your situation. But if you don’t want to participate in a social event; don’t. A response of “Thank you for including me, but I’m not up to that this year” or “I can assist with _____, but will not be able to do ______”. Responding one these ways or simply saying no, is sufficient. You know what you are dealing with and how it affects you. Do not be concerned about pleasing others when it comes to your welfare.
TIP 3- Be Positive
If you continue to allow faulty or negative thinking dictate each day, your outcome will remain the same. Yes, you are dealing with pain, disappointment and even regret. Yes, you have to go to a job that you don’t feel like doing. It is all in your perception. The fact that you are making an effort to continue doing your daily schedule is a step towards healing. Train your mind to think positive thoughts by making it a habit to speak positive declarations.
TIP 4– Take breaks when you can at work. You should have learned by now that tasks will always be there. Sometimes you need to get a breath of fresh air or change your environment for a few minutes.
TIP 5– When you are at home, take the time to journal or reflect on your feelings. Allow yourself to complete the grieving process or you will continue this cycle.
What time is it now?
Start implementing these tips now and you will get through another Monday.