Right about now, you might be imagining a scene from “Karate Kid”…
You could be visualizing one of your worst nightmares coming true: A failed holiday dinner or party that you were in charge of hosting.
Well, this blog post sort of deals with both scenarios.
Thanksgiving is just around the corner.
Do you recall what happened last Thanksgiving? More so, do you recall how you felt last Thanksgiving? If you are reflecting on warm and fuzzy memories that include family members giving you accolades about your scrumptious dinner, laughter in your living room and shouts of excitement from another touchdown, then kudos to you for accomplishing a perfect holiday.
But, you might be a part of the many for whom the above didn’t work out so great. Or even worse, it did, but it included everyone having a great time except YOU.
This post is just for YOU!
You have probably already started to hear the holiday conversations from your coworkers. They are enthusiastically looking forward to being off work for two days and having family and loved ones over. Your church has been talking about all the wonderful opportunities to do charitable works for others. Although you dare not to verbalize your genuine thoughts, every time you are forced to hear these conversations you are probably thinking, “Oh great…the holidays are here again” or “Thanksgiving…what do I really have to be thankful for?”
“How am I going to survive another Thanksgiving?”
Do not feel guilty.
Many others have started to feel the holiday blues. It can become stressful and overwhelming for anyone. If you deal with Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD), it can be more challenging trying to handle the stressors attached to the holiday, not to mention everyday life.
SAD is a type of depression that’s related to changes in season–SAD begins and ends at about the same times every year. –Mayo Clinic
There are ways that you can help offset SAD, along with other mood disorders.
PUNCH A HOLE INTO THE DARKNESS OF YOUR HOLIDAY BLUES.
Think preventative. Since you know that you have problems dealing with all the hoopla associated with the holidays, take control by combating your darkness.
Punch 1 – Own Your Feelings
You don’t have to pretend to feel just as excited as everyone else around you. Different events can occur that causes you not to be in the mood to socialize on a major scale. If you have recently lost a loved one, it’s okay to grieve. You don’t have to force yourself to be happy during the holidays.
Punch 2- Reach for Support
Every student of martial arts has a teacher or mentor. While you are ‘owning your feelings’, do not be afraid to confide in someone else who can help you through difficult times without being judgmental. If you have a professional therapist, counselor or coach, share your concerns and struggles with him or her during your next session.
Punch 3- Be Realistic
Just because your coworkers or church members sign you up for projects, you don’t have to participate in them. When you receive that phone call from a family member begging you to help with this or that, remember that their crisis is not your crisis. It doesn’t mean that you have to decline everything, but do not be afraid of saying, “No” or at least, “Let me think about it”. Be true to yourself. Set realistic boundaries for yourself so you won’t feel obligated to do everything that everyone else wants YOU to do.
Do you think you have enough punches to get you started?
When you punch, punch hard. Your punching bag is the darkness, the fear and the intimidation that try to keep you from enjoying your holidays. Ralph Macchio, in the Karate Kid, had to combat his own darkness before he could challenge his opponent. You have the power to conquer and win.