Within the short time you read the title of this blog post and up to this point, you have already allowed a negative thought to enter you mind. No condemnation here. It is a part of being human. Have you ever thought about how much you focus on negativity? Let’s examine it.
• Today is Monday and while laying in bed, you thought about everything that could go wrong today and THIS Week.
• If you are like me and your vacation just ended, you might have negative thoughts about going back to work.
• You could be unemployed and thinking, “Why bother getting up for another rejection?”
Self-talk dictates our moods, our reactions, and even our maturity level in Christ. –Dr. Chris Thurman
News alert: You have been guilty of talking to yourself!
Unfortunately, we usually label people who talk to themselves; however, we all do it. Sometimes even verbally! But self-talk can be good; although, many of us use it in a bad way. We cloud our minds with what negative thing could happen or even place negative connotations on positive things.
Let’s skip ahead a little.
HOORAY! Today you finally got a call scheduling a job interview. Before you allow yourself to celebrate something positive and start preparing to master the interview, what do you do? You start telling yourself that you are not qualified. There is too much competition. It will just result in another rejection.
You are right.
Because now you have made yourself believe every negative thing that could happen and guess what? You will take those vibes all the way to the interview with you. Why would anyone want to hire a negative person?
Whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable–if anything is excellent or praiseworthy–think about such things. Philippians 4:8
Why not rejoice about being selected for an interview! Out of all the applicants, they chose you. That means they already recognize your uniqueness. They don’t know about your situation; how you have received other rejection letters. Forget about those disappointments. Obviously, they were not right for you at this time. You plan for success with this opportunity; picking out your outfit, researching the company, highlighting accomplishments on your resume.
Instead of dreading getting your Monday started, why not be excited about a new week and new day? So much can be accomplished in one day. Yes, life will happen. Yes, negative things will happen. BUT, you can choose to think positive about negative things. You have the power to control your thoughts and conquer negative thinking. Your negative self-talk has probably kept you from reaching a major goal in your life. It’s not too late to achieve it. You just have to change your mindset.
As a child, I had a dream of publishing a novel. Admittedly, I was a bookworm and loved using something in my hand to journey to other places. Life happened. And when my first baby was born almost three years ago, I was so excited about an amazing wonder. But can I be honest with you? I also thought of all the dreams I had that had not been accomplished and how motherhood would soon take up all my time and I would probably have to wait nearly 20 years (after she has left the nest) to start completing my goals.
I was ENCOURAGED by words: “God already knew your desires because he gave them to you. He already knew your roles because he created you for them. So do you think that God didn’t plan for you to achieve all of them?”
I started changing my SELF-TALK to Positive thinking! And let me tell you with a brand new baby that was challenging. But I picked up from the first chapter of my book that I had started some time ago, and started committing to my writing everyday. My little girl hadn’t even turned a year at the time. But six months later, I had completed and was in the process of publishing my first novel, Marriage Thorn! Of course, I encourage you to check it out.
Now, if I can write a book while still breastfeeding my child and working a full-time job and being a wife, there is hope for you too. You just have to start conquering your negative thoughts by replacing them with positive ones.
I believe you can do it. Now, make it a great Monday!