Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. 1 Corinthians 13:4-5, NLT
From my natural and spiritual perspectives, love is the most powerful word in the dictionary. It stirs up emotions, causing them to blaze like a wild fire; yet, able to send a quiet storm inside a hurricane heart that will cause peace to be still. Love definitely has its affect on the human’s heart.
Why then are so many relationships broken?
An easy escape is to blame love for the reasons why people do the most unthinkable things. What causes a husband to commit infidelity? What causes a wife to take a risk at “romance” and sacrifice her stable home? Before the event of an affair, problems in the marriage existed that went unaddressed and were not dealt with in a healthy way.
Love is patient.
The quoted scriptures depict a road map for relationships; especially marriages. The first clause in verse four reveals a common weakness in all of us without making a negative statement. As a wife, I can confess how many times that I have wanted to see instant change during those challenging moments that every married couple experience. Patience is indeed a virtue. Long-suffering is a fruit that we rarely want to eat. When we become disappointed and frustrated in relationships, we feel our lives would be so much better if the person who we think is causing us these emotions would just change. Relationships do not work that way. Life does not work that way.
It is quite challenging to think about anyone else when we are in a heated argument or situation. But if we took the time to consider the other person, be a little patient, we could get to the root of the real issue we were having. Exercising patience takes work. Being able to submit to those we love, would help us to conquer those weaknesses we have and barriers to having a healthy relationship. It is a process. We will have to be patient. If you are frustrated with your spouse right now, I encourage you to take a step towards working on your patience with him or her. God has given us the ability to love and be patient. If you can not see yourself submitting to your spouse right this moment, how about considering yourself to submit to God. After all, He is the creator and best example of love.
….And He continues to be patient with each of us.